Things have been a little complicated and yet simple at the same time..
A lot has been going through my mind. Haven't been sleeping well cause of the things running through my mind when I'm trying to fall asleep. I never used to have that problem as far as a year ago. I guess as people grow up, so does their responsibilities and the things that worry them.
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A small update about what I've been up to:
- Tried to apply for a flat but was unsuccessful. So just gonna keep looking and trying. If we're lucky, might be able to get a place maybe in 3-4 years time.
- Gonna be going back to driving. After a 3 months hiatus, I've completely lost touch with everything to do with a car.. Haha..
- Waiting for my diploma to start. It's in Feb 2011, and somehow it seems so far and yet so near. I'm having a bit of nervousness about the course. I hope I dun do too bad. Worst would be me being super lazy. I've never really been a person who can motivate herself. =P
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The thing about parents is that we'll always sorta be their babies forever. There's many different types: the coddling ones (who still does your laundry and make you dinner even in your 30s), the encouraging ones (who can make you believe you truly can succeed in whatever you wanna be) and the ambitious ones (who signs you up for music/dance/acting/foreign languages etc lessons).
And then there's my parents. My dad doesn't really care about what I become cause I am a girl. And that means eventually, I will get married and be out of his hair by then. My mom is very mood-oriented when it comes to dealing with us kids. If she's a bad mood, she scolds/complains/nags at everyone. If she's in an awesome mood, she'll be laughing/buying stuffs/having fun with you.
I guess I'm like that to a certain extent. But the only difference is, I'm very protective about what I call mine. That includes my room, my lifestyle, my friends and my boyfriend. As much as I want to protect what is mine, sometimes she does get to them.
I know in some ways she cares for me, but her words tend to be harsh, almost to the point where she will draw blood when she strikes to win. You'll feel like the lowest scum ever to exist in this world and you'll hate everyone for it.
So what does one do, when she's criticises your boyfriend? Would you tell him? Or keep it from him to protect him from the mental torture?
For me, I always tell the truth because in a way, I hoped he would take it as a feedback, and try to do better. But being a stubborn man, he gets angry. After being with my mom for all my life, the only way to diffuse the whole situation and get her off my back, is to pretend and play-act in front of her. That's how me and my brother survived. So that's what I suggested him to do to get her off his back.
My bf however, hates doing that. He thinks if you were to do something, why should you do it so ppl can see. He doesn't understand it as self-preservation and it's hard for me to explain when he doesn't get it. I feel he's not trying hard enough but then again, nothing is ever good enough for my mom.
I love my mom, dun get me wrong, but she's so frustrating sometimes in her thinking, it kills me. Like I wanna shake her so hard until she gets it.
Sigh...
It's late and I'm tired. Sorry if this post didn't make sense.. Just needed to get it off before I go to bed..
Anyways...
Have a good week everyone.. Take care~!
Wow. I didn't know it's that hard to get a place of your own over there Ivy. It's so easy over here to get a place of your own. You can rent or buy, just as long as you have a full time job. You don't need to wait years to get one. It's pretty much instant once you go to a real estate agent.
ReplyDeleteHmm, it is complicated when your family don't like your partner or his family don't like you. It makes your relationship that much harder to maintain. I don't know what I would do in your shoes since I never had that problem. I don't think I would tell though..I don't want to hurt him.
Well, if you wanna get subsidised housing then you most probably have to wait a few years. We have 3 catergories: Build-to-order, Resale and Balance flats.
ReplyDeleteBuild to order are the ones whereby you ballot for it, and if you do get it, wait for at least 3 years for them to finish completion from scratch.
Resale flats are the ones which are 2nd-hand.
Balance flats are the ones which are leftover from the first ballot done for that particular project.
The Singapore government is mass building flats this year because property prices have been going nuts and everyone is complaining there's not enough flats in the market that's affordable for the average income family.
Yea, and my mom is the worst person in the world to please too. Everything is never good enough for her. I don't like to not tell him. Cause it feels like a major thing if an in-law doesn't like me.
I know how that feels, having the boyfriend's parents not like you. But I would like to know though, so I will be on my guard at all times.
I wouldn't want to live in Singapore now. Getting a house seems so complicated. *_*
ReplyDeleteWell if the in-laws don't like you, you will know about it from the way they act towards you. I know from my sisters......*_*