You know how it is, when you get into a relationship.. People stop calling to ask you out because 9/10 times the answer would be no.
Sigh, I dunno if it's possible but sometimes the longer we are together, the further we seem to be drifting away. We fight over little things and we dun do much stuffs together anymore.
Is it how it's supposed to be like? Or do we need to both work hard at it to prevent something like this from happening?
Hmm that is one of lifes greatest questions: How to juggle a partner and friends. Some friends just don't understand that you are in a relationship and with that comes certain commitments. But on the flip side, you dont want to be one of those people who always dogs their friends because they would rather see their partner. If you have drifted apart from your friends you should try contacting the ma bit more. Find out when the next outing is a go.
ReplyDeleteHmm thats a hard one. Most people would say that the honeymoon period is over and the passion is leaving the relationship leading to the drifting. If I have learnt anything from dating it is to make sure that a relationship doesnt become a friendship. Cos once that happens it over.
You need to keep the passion flowing. e.g. when you meet up, go out, have dinner out, go to the theatre, go hiking, walking on the beach, you know real relationship bonding stuff. The ultimate killer for relationship is when a couple meets up every week and does the same thing all the time (e.g. you go to his house and he comes to yours...). Also never stop romancing, people tend to put their hearts into love making at the start. 2+ years into the relationship foreplay is gone and basically it ends up being just a get off session aka romance of the act gone.
Hmm its quite normal to fight over little things. IF you have big arguments over little thigns then that can be for many reasons. Such as stress, tired, bottled up aggression, etc. YOu often find that the fights over little things can often stem from deeper emotions. e.g u have a fight cos you left dirty plates in the sink. Now you may think tht its over a little thing, but that person was already annoyed bout the fact that your leave crap all over the house, your room is messy, and you always leave crumbs in the car. SO the dishes were the icing on the cake.
Communication is the key. If you talk about why you are fighting you can work towards finding a solution. Dont look atthings and give up. Everything can be fixed.
Finding that special someone is hard. The initial years are always spent arguing as you get to know eachother. The glue that keeps the relationship together needs to be strong and built with your love for eachother and most importantly, the combined will from both parties to want to be together and put all their effort into keeping it that way. As long as you both want to stay together and actively persue that goal everything will work out in the end. But it cannot be one sided.
wow long answer. soz xD mebe i should blog too lol...
Lol, yes Paul..
ReplyDeleteMaybe you should..
I hardly ever talk to you anymore..
Also, your answer is super thorough. Thanks so much for the advice. =)